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Stop it

In an exercise where we ask the question what is wrong with the word no. Someone in Guildford said it reminded them of an early childhood experience, when a parent said ‘stop it.’ Lots of parents have told their children to stop doing something. But what if what the child was doing at the time […]

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Who do you think you are?

We are just not living in the present each one of us has a mind which is filled like an antique shop with ideas coming from many centuries, a mixture of past and present. Neuroscience is telling us that in order to be able to think about the future, our ideas are formed in the […]

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The Serial Inviter

“How can we learn to freely invite?” Only 5 percent congregational members said they “operated on an instinct.” I call these participants serial inviters. Whereas for 95% of congregational members this means there is a brief internal struggle, a decision point during which people can cave in to fear— sometimes wisely— or charge forward. This […]

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The sting of mistakes

In the Courage Quotient Robert Biswas Diener says that a compelling study by Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer, that people avoid taking courageous action because they are afraid of making mistakes, which can be socially embarrassing and personally threatening. Worrying about these mistakes, according to Langer, prevents us from taking risks and from being creative. In […]

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Control

We modern Christians have fallen in love with the idea that we are in control of our lives, and this worldview gives rise to an impulse to resist failure, to fight against the very notion of it. But just like the modern trend to defy age, the battle against failure is a lost cause. Failure […]

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The Bystander Effect

It is the bystander effect that accounts for the counterintuitive finding that the more people put in charge of a task of invitation and mission the less likely it is to get done. When a Church Leader asks the whole congregation to invite, everyone assumes someone else will do it. Success is one person inviting […]

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A barrier?

Last night in reviewing the answers to what is wrong with the word no? Someone had said that it ‘puts a barrier between you and the person for the future.’ No one can deny that at times there might be awkwardness if you ask someone to take a closer look at Christ and they say […]

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