Every person God made is a self, picture a little baby they just love life and love themselves they are enamoured by all the cool stuff going on around them. Something happens in a person’s life and that self is circled with shame. At some point all of us growing up, something happens where we learn whether true or not, that we don’t belong, that there is something wrong with us, that there’s a fatal flaw and if people knew it, they wouldn’t accept my ‘self’. It is the loss of innocence, then both the self and shame get circled by personality. We cover the shame with something we figure out can get us accepted. For me it is learning, intelligence and humour. If I could be intelligent and funny I had a reason to be in front of people. That is really hard work, it is really exhausting to keep that stuff up. Our souls are really healed when someone can get through to the self, but of course they have get through two layers in order get to know the real you. And being wounded early in life it is really scary to show it to anybody. Invite someone to take a closer look at Christ and his church.