Invitational Softly Softly?

Very often I hear the what seems like a reasonable reason for not inviting someone yet. Somebody said to me the other day that we need to take a softly softly approach, rather than a pushy approach. It sounds sensible until we bring obedience into the picture. If God prompts us to invite someone and we translate that into a softly softly approach then are we not fearing man rather than fearing God. We tiptoe around the issue. Was Jesus softly softly or pushy, pushy? It seems to me that he was neither He was just about his Father’s business. Invite as prompted by God someone to take a closer look at Christ and His church.