The biggest obstacle outside of fear of rejection is our neediness. It is so important that we emotionally detach from the outcome. We think if my son, my daughter, my friend says yes it will be just so great”. We are so emotionally attached to the outcome we cripple ourselves if they say no. Also when we are so emotionally attached, our invitee senses it and pulls back. Our desperation for a yes is sensed. It is not important that they say yes, only that we offer the invitation, the rest we can leave to God. For example our invitee might not be ready yet. Therefore to emotionally detach means that we won’t have ups and the downs which end our invitational life and for your invitee so that they won’t sense your neediness and therefore be more open to listen to your invite.